Is This The Enemy Of Happiness?

Is This The Enemy Of Happiness?

I was telling a story at a dinner party and someone interrupted.

They took a bit of a dig at me. And smiled.

What happened next lasted for days. Really.

‘How could they belittle me like that?’ . What am I supposed to say?

What is this raw emotion and where does it come from?

You want to control your emotions? Good luck with that. You can’t control emotions and if you think you can then they will end up controlling you.

Like a pack of wolves they will steal you away when the darkness falls.

You know this already.

You see emotions are an important part of our life. They are useful in signalling to us if something isn’t working for us or needs changing. Emotions are like our inbuilt warning systems.

Feeling emotions is a natural part of the awareness of living. They can set the thermostat of your day-to-day experience. If we are generally living in an attitude of fear and worry all of our decisions are impacted by that state.

If, instead, we take an outlook of joy and love we will find that the world opens up in front of us in an entirely different way.

This is the path to peace and joy.

But emotions can and will change, sometimes from moment to moment. The problems start when we forget to really feel the emotion and let it play out, instead of trying to suppress it.

This is futile.

We attempt to cover it over and stuff into a mental sack labelled ‘Emotional Baggage.’

You have a choice when you feel a strong emotion. You can either release and let it go or add it to your emotional baggage.

The trouble with emotional baggage is that keeping it suppressed and under control takes a lot of mental energy. Hiding our emotions leaves us with very little dynamic spirit to do anything else.

I recently read a terrific summary of how to release emotions. If you find that the same emotions are coming up for you time and time again then you are not releasing them, they build up and start to dominate your thoughts.

Here’s how to clear them:

  1. Ask yourself if it’s possible to let go of this emotion.
  2. If it is, then ask yourself if you would.
  3. If you would, then ask yourself when is the right time.

The way to release the emotions is to say Yes, Yes and Now!

Holding onto emotions like resentment or jealousy harms nobody but yourself.

Perhaps you think you’ll pay them back by staying annoyed with them for a bit longer. Well, the only person being affected here is you.

You need to release it.

Once you release an emotion you will feel lighter as you let go. As you practice you can release emotions as they happen.

Feel them and let them go.

19 Ways To Make More Time For Meditation

19 Ways To Make More Time For Meditation

If you are finding it difficult to find time for meditation then you are not alone, often it is a struggle to find space for any kind of meditation in your life. Like all things, it is only once you establish an action as a habit that it starts to feel vital to your day. These ideas can help you cut down the distractions that pull you way from your time to just sit and be.

1. Unplug

Turn off the computer, email, social sites, and funny cat videos. It is amazing how tempting this technology is and how much it distracts us. Please wait until you’ve read the whole of this article though :)

2. Turn off the television

Another of the great time killers. You can always catch up on that episode of ‘Elephants That Ski’ but if you miss your meditation session, it’s gone. This is a great way to begin to learn about becoming aware of what you do with your time, moment to moment.

3. Get a timer

Okay, I’m not saying we get so obsessed about time here, it’s just that when you raise your awareness of how you are spending time it opens up vastly in front of you. Using a timer is a great way to establish a committed meditation practice. Get a timer, set it. Sit. 5-10 minutes. It’s enough.

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Why The Amateurs Shall Inherit The Earth

Why The Amateurs Shall Inherit The Earth

Have you got 10,000 hours to spare?

This is the time they say it takes to master your thing. The thing that you want to commit your life to and that will have you bursting with excitement every day.

10,000.

I say we ditch trying to master stuff and instead let’s just play at stuff. Like novices and amateurs.

All of the time I am trying to empower young people to play music. With no skills or experience. No hours.

So why not follow on with the same philosophy that I teach to them. Everything is here, play with it. (more…)